Editor's Note: This article has been recently updated with latest information and research studies.
If you enjoy having sex, then you are most certainly not alone. Sex is essential to the wellbeing of many people and it is often needed to maintain a healthy relationship. Every person has a different and quite unique view on sex. Some like to keep it old school, while others enjoy spicing things up by trying out different positions or by doing some experimenting. While this may seem like quite a harsh accusation, there are a significant amount of common sex mistakes men make in bed.
No matter what you are into and how much you have sex, there are many problems that can arise when it comes to sexual intercourse – especially for men. Men often fail to take the needs and feelings of their partners into account while they are having sex as they often consider themselves adequate enough to know what their partners want.
There are thousands of men that jumps into the bed and starts to have sex with their partner their own way – without asking their partner what they would like to do or how they would like to be satisfied. Unfortunately, this also means that sex is not all it can be for the particular couple.
What Mistakes Do Men Often Make When They Have Sex?
In this article, we want to address the fact that there are numerous common sex mistakes men make in bed, but they often do not consider the mistakes they make while they are participating in sexual activities. Now, we are not telling you to start judging yourself and to point out all of your shortcomings, but we are telling you that noticing potential mistakes you might be making in bed can help you spice up your sex life and even lead to a much more intense level of satisfaction when you get busy with your partner.
Let’s look at some common mistakes that men often make when they are having sex. If you are able to identify any of the mistakes we are about to mention in your own sex routine, then it might be time to reconsider how you are having sex and what you are doing during sex. By simply making some small changes in your own life, as well as in your sexual habits, you could easily improve* your performance in the bedroom and find that you are driving your partner to a much more intense orgasm than ever before.
#1: Men Tend To Think Women Cannot Have An Orgasm
We certainly have to cover this particular mistake in our list of common sex mistakes men make in bed first as it is often considered somewhat insulting by women. A lot of men think that a woman is unable to have an orgasm at all. The truth is, women can experience an orgasm – it is just that a lot of women are unable to have an orgasm by intercourse alone. According to Woman’s Day, it is quite common for a woman to find it difficult to reach orgasm, especially when the only stimulation she receives is from being penetrated by her partner.
Instead of only focusing on reaching orgasm yourself, you should see to it that your partner also reaches orgasm. Know that a woman can reach orgasm too and make your partner feel like they matter by making sure they also achieve an orgasm before your steamy session of sexual intercourse is over. Men’s Health explains that many “final moves” can help you make sure your partner has an orgasm and is not left unsatisfied after sex. These moves include the double grip, the “ultimate” and the drop trick.
#2: Men Often Considers Foreplay And Seduction Unworthy
Foreplay might be one of the sexiest things you can do to spice up your sex life, yet quite a lot of men tend to overlook the fact that foreplay is important to ensure sex is passionate and very satisfying. Foreplay does not have to include extreme activities if you are not much into “experimenting”. Even just being a little flirtier than usual with your partner during the day can do the trick and spice things up when you finally go to bed.
Men’s Fitness explains that women really likes it when a man pays attention with her breasts and when men do the undressing prior to getting into bed. They also explain that men should not rush things when seducing their partner, but rather take their time.
#3: Men Thing That All Women Likes It Rough All The Time
Another common mistake men make during sex is to think that women would like to have rough sex every time they get “busy”. Rough sex is something quite a lot of women dream of and desires, but while rough and steamy sex can be a real turn on and very satisfying at times, it is important for men to know that women do not always want to be “man handled”. Yes, now and then a woman may feel up for something a little more daring than simply being “vanilla” in bed, but this is not always the case.
Reading the mood of your partner is one of the best ways to determine what they want. If it seems like they are up for a rough night of sex, then give it to them. If they seem more “cuddly” and to be in a romantic mood, then taking things slowly might be the better* options to make sure they are truly satisfied with what they get.
#4: Men Often Only Focuses On The Physical Part Of Sexual Intercourse And Arousal
Sexual arousal starts in the brain, yet most men tend to focus on the physical aspects of arousal, seduction and sexual intercourse when they are trying to get their partner into bed. While sex is a truly physical activity, it is important to remember that there are psychological factors to sex as well – including the connection that you and your partner shares while you are having sex.
It is important note to only focus on the physical attributes of sex. Yes, touching your partner and penetrating them is important for sex to be pleasurable, but you should also talk to them and stimulate the sexual side of their mind as well. There are many ways to achieve this. Try to talk about your own sexual fantasies with your partner and you’ll be surprised at how quickly they may open up to you.
#5: Men Fail To Talk About Sex With Their Partner
Unfortunately, communication is a particular aspect that a lot of relationships tend to fail in at least to some degree. While you may talk to your partner during the day and actively converse with them, the conversations you may have might not always be deep and on a personal level. Talking about general subjects, such as the weather or something completely crazy that happened at work today might make for an interesting conversation, but you should know that there are more to talk about. Miscommunication is another potential sex mistake by men that can lead to awkward moments and unsatisfying sex.
In addition to having your regular conversations with your partner, you should make a point to also have conversations about your sexual experiences with them. Talk openly to your partner about what you like and what you do not like about the way the two of you are having sex. Try to explain what might make things more exciting and see if your partner has any ideas. Be ready to discuss any ideas that your partner throws your way and never be judgmental while your partner is sharing some of their “bedroom secrets” with you.
What is the major sex mistake men make in bed?
The major sex mistake that the majority of the men make in bed is believing that arousal happens just like that. Many men make the mistake of thinking that their partners no longer need to be seduced; however, seduction remains just as important after 20 years, allowing the woman to feel sexy and prepared for the act of making love. Knowing what turns your partner on is also essential, whether we are talking about physical things or mental stimulation. What matters is that you both take your time to enjoy the foreplay sequence and not be in a hurry to get into bed.
Conclusion
Men are not perfect and can have shortcomings when it comes to their sexual performance, but some common sex mistakes men make in bed can easily be avoided with some small changes. In this article, we have shared with you some excellent tips that will help you identify any potential mistakes you are making during sex. Once identified, you can work on the issues you are experiencing so that your sexual performance can be improved* and to ensure you deliver an immense level of pleasure to your partner.
